tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post7466910671683538149..comments2022-11-14T04:53:28.729-08:00Comments on Homemaking Pilgrim: Feelings about My C-Section & Trusting the LordJennahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16444026039728800336noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-65177645170308931462011-08-20T08:48:03.387-07:002011-08-20T08:48:03.387-07:00Wow! It was like I reading my own thoughts from 2...Wow! It was like I reading my own thoughts from 2 years ago! I too had a c-section after having a terrible experience with an epidural and 40 hour labor and being woefully uneducated about all childbirthing possibilities. I hated the thought of being limited in the number of children I could have (even though I didn't know how many I wanted). The docs said my son was probably too big to be born vaginally. He was 9 lbs. 9 oz. When I got pregnant 6 months later, I started doing some research and decided to try a VBAC. I was very lucky to have a doctor and hospital right down the street that were very supportive. (I did get some resistance from family, some nurses, etc., but my husband and I prayed every day for a safe and natural delivery of our second) My daughter was born naturally, after a short 7 hour labor and she weighed 10 lbs. 7 oz!! The biggest help to me was hiring a doula, and every night spending time praying for God's will and imagining a safe and healthy delivery. <br /><br />And the Lord has blessed us again! Two weeks ago I had another beautiful daughter via VBAC (no doula this time), weighing 9 lbs, 5 oz. We were even trying not to get pregnant this time because my so-close pregnancies had my body feeling all run-down. But, like you said, it is the Lord's plan that is most important. <br /><br />All that said, I really hope you are able to have a VBAC. Please know that it is possible! I just wanted to encourage you because so many people thought that I couldn't do it because of my big babies. But to God be the glory. My second VBAC I only had 3 hours of labor (I had to have pitocin since my water broke the day before, which sped things up) and it was the hardest 3 hours of my life...but God was so gracious to me. I know that no matter what happens with your birth (VBAC or C-section), the Lord will pour His Grace out on you too because you are desiring His will. Congrats on your upcoming addition and safe delivery!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-72177113705948353902011-08-17T11:35:12.410-07:002011-08-17T11:35:12.410-07:00WOW Cheryl! I LOVE when God shows Himself this wa...WOW Cheryl! I LOVE when God shows Himself this way. What an amazing testimony!!! This is of great encouragement. I've had five c-sections (so far) and the thought of a VBAC seems scary....with God ALL things are possible! And then you had a bunch more....AWESOME!Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02401052769644309532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-17512488020666651372011-08-17T08:51:40.941-07:002011-08-17T08:51:40.941-07:00I can so relate to the feelings and emotions you s...I can so relate to the feelings and emotions you share in this post. My first 4 babies were born c-section. I was told "Once a cesarean..." Then a miracle happened and after surrendering our fertility to the Lord in 1997, a crusty old OB suggested we try a VBAC (personally, I thought the dude was one fry short of a Happy Meal!). Long story short our 5th child was my first VBAC! Since then, I've had FIVE more VBACs, all weighing OVER TEN POUNDS each (the last two weighed over 11 pounds and were born at home). I want to encourage you sweetie, to give it ALL to the Lord and then be amazed at what He will do! P.S You can read the full version on my blog here: http://treasuresfromashoebox.blogspot.com/2010/05/youve-had-how-many-cesareans.html (it's my most popular post!)<br />God bless you as you bring Kingdom Warriors into this world!Treasures from a shoeboxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10365888492682303470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-57613512274640383552011-08-15T07:55:49.491-07:002011-08-15T07:55:49.491-07:00Funny, I was reading through this and the whole ti...Funny, I was reading through this and the whole time saying, VBAC!! Midwife!! but I guess you thought of that. What a blessing that you found a doctor willing to even try a VBAC, that it so rare these days. <br />I get the disappointment thing with things not going your way, I had a midwife with Aubrey and I'm not going to be able to get that here in the states with my next one, based on our insurance. I'm so scared they won't let me go long enough to wait for the baby to come on it's own(Aubrey was 11 days over due) and I'm giving you the same advice that I'm giving myself when I'm a little freaked out of a pushy doctor: Pray that God gives you courage to stand up for what YOU know is right for you and your baby. I don't want to be a push over and go with a doctor's decision based on what the majority of mothers need, not this specific situation. <br />Oh and yes, I am pregnant again(and feeling sick like you are) :) I'll be due some time in March! I hope you are feeling better Jenna...Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09730649799878812929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-42305769245871693782011-08-14T08:40:25.641-07:002011-08-14T08:40:25.641-07:00I had a c-section with my first, and was fine with...I had a c-section with my first, and was fine with it. I did VBAC with my second and all went well. (I think the type of incision you have may be a factor. (vertical vs. horizontal)) My dr. just assumed I'd try a vaginal birth the second time since there was no real reason not to. I think Johanna had some really good advice. Just just wanted to encourage you. Good luck to you in your VBAC attempt.:)Taranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-81676237870958543302011-08-13T14:42:58.759-07:002011-08-13T14:42:58.759-07:00I love your attitude about it all! I am a pretty a...I love your attitude about it all! I am a pretty avid home-birth advocate...but, of course, first and foremost I am an advocate for the Lord's will and the safety of the baby! :-)<br /><br />I would encourage you to do some more research into VBAC's. There are some major misconceptions about them, and especially if you have only had one c-section so far, (barring other complications,) there is NO reason you shouldn't be able to try for VBAC! <br />After two or more it starts to get a little riskier, so you'd really want to make sure you make an informed decision before this next birth, as it could affect the rest of your births afterward as you mentioned!<br /><br />Keep looking for a VBAC-friendly midwife that will take you, or a doctor that is more outspokenly willing to do VBAC's. Many doctors will tell you that you can "try for a VBAC," but then during labor will often switch on you and rush you into a c-section at the slightest hitch or delay in the labor.<br /><br />Please at least read "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth!" There's some weird hippie-kind of stuff in there, but much wisdom and helpful information also! She has a whole section on VBAC's with some great research on their safety.<br /><br />However it turns out, I love that you are staying open to God's will for the birth...however it happens! <br /><br />God bless! :-)<br /><br />Johanna at <a href="http://www.mamachocolateblog.com/" rel="nofollow">Mama Chocolate</a>Mama Chocolatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07305938028044533437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-1584575418797523132011-08-11T10:32:06.923-07:002011-08-11T10:32:06.923-07:00I have had five c-sections so far. We are open to...I have had five c-sections so far. We are open to however many blessings the Lord decides to give us (regardless of the dr's as they only feel comfortable with two or three). Good thing for us that it's not in the dr's hand but rather in the Lord's. He knows exactly what it looks like in "there"....<br /><br />My husband and I didn't get here in our strong conviction over night...we went through a vasectomy and reversal as well as finding out I had a tumor that I would have died from if I had not been open to children (I know, odd...the name of it was a "pheochromocytoma") <br /><br />You know who I think of when it comes to being open to children is Rachel...she gave birth to Joseph and died giving birth to Benjamin. They were the two tribes of Israel. WOW!<br />The question I have asked myself is, "What if that was the sole purpose of Rachel's life...would that be o.k.?<br /><br />bottom line....c-sections, infant formula, etc. are not the enemy. <br />His plan is SO good and SO perfect. <br /><br />Praying that you will have His eternal wisdom.<br /><br />btw...a really good read on this subject is, "Be Fruitful and Multiply" by Nancy Campbell. You can also visit her website which is titled, "Above Rubies."<br /><br />Love in Christ,<br />AngelaAngelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02401052769644309532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-13174777265274691242011-08-11T06:21:07.833-07:002011-08-11T06:21:07.833-07:00Wow - I feel like you just totally wrote about me!...Wow - I feel like you just totally wrote about me! 19 months ago I also had an unplanned C-section. It wasn't an emergency one...at 40 weeks 3 days I still wasn't anymore near labor than I was at 4 weeks...but the doc said my son's head was too large to pass through the birth canal. I was horribly disappointed. Like you, I had totally tuned out or ignored any information about a c-section, because it wasn't even on my radar. <br /><br />I am now 30 weeks along with #2 and doc said that if all goes well I can have a VBAC. Like you, I am really hoping for one, because in my country they simply will not deliver any more children after a 3rd c-section - naturally or otherwise. We're not necessarily planning on anymore children...but like you - I just sort of wonder if maybe later we'll want more. <br /><br />I can't wait to see what God does for you this time around. I am hoping you get your VBAC!!! <br /><br />Popping over - and now following you - from WLW.Rosilind Jukichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08304788871235090080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-76787035497514050882011-08-10T21:01:01.896-07:002011-08-10T21:01:01.896-07:00Jenna, I just read this and I had to comment. Afte...Jenna, I just read this and I had to comment. After my c-section the exact same thoughts went through my head- one night I was crying and told Kevin that I am so worried about having to have another c-section as it may limit the amount of kids we could have. I had always thought that we would probably have 3 kids but somehow the loss of control of really being able to decide made me angry and feeling as though I really want more kids. I'll be praying that everything goes well with the VBAC, and that you are able to trust that God has a plan. Keep trusting in His perfect ways.<br />AlyshaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-44348876243045108972011-08-10T13:26:26.176-07:002011-08-10T13:26:26.176-07:00I am praying for you, ultimately Christ knows what...I am praying for you, ultimately Christ knows what is best for each family!! My last child was a C-section and I had to get a tubal for health reason, but the Lord has opened our hearts to adoption. I knew the Lord would provide a way to keep my home and heart filled with children. So, no matter what TRUST HIM!!!!Valencia Jones-Edwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04790185669309543873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6036402677966477880.post-64657128361327645672011-08-10T10:21:14.183-07:002011-08-10T10:21:14.183-07:00I understand where you are coming from. I am on my...I understand where you are coming from. I am on my 3rd c-section (it'll be my 4th child)in 9 weeks. We are done, biologically, after this one. They get more rough to recover from and the risks go up and our family seems to have a knack for being part of the "small" statistics... While I always wanted more children, I realize that our wants aren't always what is best for us or our family or God's plan. Sometimes it takes a "slap in the face" (ie: birth injury, c-section, not being able to breastfeed, you name it) to understand this. I'm not saying that it's in God's plan to have had my first child severely injured at birth, but for whatever reason He chose not to intervene in that (but He did intervene in saving his life). The funny thing is, is that you can still find the blessings in the twists and turns of life and have peace in them. I never expected my life to turn out how it has. Some people feel sorry for me, but over the years I've found the joys in my life now (ones I would have NEVER known if what I had mapped out would have happened... homebirths, breastfeeding, perfectly healthy children). While it all can still be hard and I may have "twinges" of pain from not being about to have an unlimited number of children or being able to nurse, etc; the sharpness fades in time. <br /> Plus, we are now researching adoption in a heart of openess for the future... something we NEVER would have looked into had things gone "our" way... <br /><br />Good luck with your vbac and just know, no matter what, you'll be able to find blessings in either situation (though at first it can be very hard to see).RaisingCropsAndBabieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01897154924425187493noreply@blogger.com